{"id":2590,"date":"2025-05-10T15:49:32","date_gmt":"2025-05-10T13:49:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/taigenesis.com\/?p=2590"},"modified":"2025-05-10T16:08:35","modified_gmt":"2025-05-10T14:08:35","slug":"tai-and-couple-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/taigenesis.com\/en\/tai-and-couple-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"TAI and Couple Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"
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TAI <\/span>and <\/span>the <\/span>Couple <\/span>Relationship<\/span><\/span><\/strong>
\nThesis <\/span>by <\/span>Anna <\/span>Persico<\/span>
\nCertification <\/span>as <\/span>an <\/span>Advanced <\/span>TAI <\/span>Practitioner <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n
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1. <\/span>Introduction<\/span><\/span>
\nI <\/span>have <\/span>been <\/span>working <\/span>as <\/span>a <\/span>counselor <\/span>for <\/span>several <\/span>years, <\/span>trained <\/span>in <\/span>Carl <\/span>Rogers\u2019 <\/span>Person-Centered <\/span>Approach <\/span>and <\/span>Ferruccio <\/span>Marcoli\u2019s <\/span>Generative <\/span>Psychology. <\/span>The <\/span>Person-Centered <\/span>Approach <\/span>is <\/span>based <\/span>on <\/span>the <\/span>belief <\/span>that <\/span>the <\/span>person <\/span>seeking <\/span>help <\/span>possesses <\/span>the <\/span>skills <\/span>and <\/span>motivation <\/span>necessary <\/span>to <\/span>change <\/span>themselves, <\/span>while <\/span>the <\/span>counselor\u2019s <\/span>role <\/span>is <\/span>essentially <\/span>to <\/span>facilitate <\/span>this <\/span>change. <\/span>The <\/span>individual <\/span>is <\/span>thus <\/span>the <\/span>best <\/span>expert <\/span>on <\/span>themselves. <\/span>I <\/span>have <\/span>faith <\/span>in <\/span>people <\/span>and <\/span>strongly <\/span>believe <\/span>in <\/span>personal <\/span>power, <\/span>as <\/span>described <\/span>by <\/span>Rogers, <\/span>which <\/span>enables <\/span>each <\/span>of <\/span>us <\/span>to <\/span>reach <\/span>our <\/span>own <\/span>truth <\/span>and <\/span>congruence. <\/span>In <\/span>a <\/span>state <\/span>of <\/span>congruence, <\/span>there <\/span>is <\/span>alignment <\/span>between <\/span>what <\/span>we <\/span>feel <\/span>and <\/span>perceive <\/span>and <\/span>what <\/span>we <\/span>express, <\/span>allowing <\/span>us <\/span>to <\/span>live <\/span>relationships <\/span>with <\/span>others <\/span>and <\/span>ourselves <\/span>in <\/span>a <\/span>functional <\/span>and <\/span>satisfying <\/span>way. <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n
Before <\/span>discovering <\/span>Inner <\/span>Alchemy <\/span>Techniques <\/span>(TAI), <\/span>I <\/span>practiced <\/span>EFT <\/span>(Emotional <\/span>Freedom <\/span>Techniques) <\/span>on <\/span>myself <\/span>for <\/span>several <\/span>years. <\/span>I <\/span>studied <\/span>it <\/span>independently <\/span>and <\/span>practiced <\/span>it <\/span>with <\/span>my <\/span>psychotherapist, <\/span>always <\/span>finding <\/span>it <\/span>very <\/span>useful. <\/span>In <\/span>2023, <\/span>I <\/span>followed <\/span>an <\/span>EFT-i <\/span>video <\/span>course <\/span>by <\/span>Andrea <\/span>Fredi, <\/span>which <\/span>sparked <\/span>the <\/span>idea <\/span>of <\/span>becoming <\/span>a <\/span>practitioner. <\/span>When <\/span>I <\/span>contacted <\/span>Andrea <\/span>to <\/span>discuss <\/span>this, <\/span>he <\/span>told <\/span>me <\/span>about <\/span>TAI <\/span>and <\/span>how <\/span>immediate <\/span>and <\/span>powerful <\/span>this <\/span>technique <\/span>is. <\/span>After <\/span>a <\/span>trial <\/span>session <\/span>with <\/span>him, <\/span>during <\/span>which <\/span>I <\/span>further <\/span>released <\/span>a <\/span>very <\/span>painful <\/span>memory <\/span>I <\/span>had <\/span>been <\/span>working <\/span>on <\/span>for <\/span>some <\/span>time, <\/span>I <\/span>was <\/span>convinced <\/span>and <\/span>decided <\/span>to <\/span>enroll <\/span>in <\/span>the <\/span>training <\/span>to <\/span>become <\/span>a <\/span>TAI <\/span>practitioner. <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n
During <\/span>the <\/span>training, <\/span>I <\/span>used <\/span>the <\/span>technique <\/span>frequently, <\/span>first <\/span>on <\/span>past <\/span>experiences <\/span>and <\/span>then <\/span>on <\/span>fantasies, <\/span>beliefs, <\/span>and <\/span>everything <\/span>that <\/span>daily <\/span>life <\/span>brought <\/span>up. <\/span>In <\/span>sessions <\/span>with <\/span>Andrea, <\/span>I <\/span>addressed <\/span>several <\/span>important <\/span>themes, <\/span>particularly <\/span>a <\/span>traumatic <\/span>experience <\/span>from <\/span>very <\/span>early <\/span>childhood, <\/span>of <\/span>which <\/span>I <\/span>have <\/span>no <\/span>clear <\/span>memories <\/span>but <\/span>a <\/span>somatic-sensory <\/span>memory. <\/span>Although <\/span>I <\/span>had <\/span>worked <\/span>on <\/span>it <\/span>in <\/span>the <\/span>past <\/span>with <\/span>body <\/span>psychotherapy <\/span>and <\/span>EMDR, <\/span>I <\/span>felt <\/span>there <\/span>were <\/span>still <\/span>unresolved <\/span>knots <\/span>to <\/span>release. <\/span>With <\/span>TAI, <\/span>I <\/span>was <\/span>able <\/span>to <\/span>focus <\/span>on <\/span>a <\/span>detail <\/span>I <\/span>had <\/span>never <\/span>considered <\/span>before <\/span>and <\/span>let <\/span>it <\/span>go. <\/span>I <\/span>experienced <\/span>a <\/span>profound <\/span>inner <\/span>joy <\/span>that <\/span>lasted <\/span>for <\/span>days. <\/span>It <\/span>was <\/span>a <\/span>wonderful <\/span>surprise <\/span>that <\/span>further <\/span>convinced <\/span>me <\/span>of <\/span>TAI\u2019s <\/span>power, <\/span>its <\/span>ability <\/span>to <\/span>illuminate <\/span>and <\/span>give <\/span>due <\/span>importance <\/span>to <\/span>what <\/span>seemed <\/span>like <\/span>a <\/span>detail, <\/span>ultimately <\/span>allowing <\/span>it <\/span>to <\/span>be <\/span>released. <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n
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2. <\/span>Case <\/span>Study<\/span><\/span>
\nLisa <\/span>is <\/span>a <\/span>40-year-old <\/span>woman <\/span>who <\/span>approached <\/span>me <\/span>to <\/span>explore <\/span>some <\/span>aspects <\/span>of <\/span>her <\/span>relationship <\/span>with <\/span>her <\/span>partner. <\/span>They <\/span>have <\/span>been <\/span>a <\/span>couple <\/span>for <\/span>15 <\/span>years, <\/span>and <\/span>he <\/span>frequently <\/span>suffers <\/span>from <\/span>physical <\/span>and <\/span>psychological <\/span>issues. <\/span>They <\/span>are <\/span>attending <\/span>couple\u2019s <\/span>therapy, <\/span>and <\/span>Lisa <\/span>is <\/span>very <\/span>self-reflective, <\/span>recognizing <\/span>how <\/span>some <\/span>of <\/span>their <\/span>relational <\/span>patterns <\/span>are <\/span>dysfunctional. <\/span>In <\/span>total, <\/span>we <\/span>had <\/span>4 <\/span>sessions <\/span>over <\/span>8 <\/span>weeks. <\/span>In <\/span>each <\/span>session, <\/span>I <\/span>worked <\/span>using <\/span>non-judgmental <\/span>active <\/span>listening, <\/span>characteristic <\/span>of <\/span>counseling, <\/span>and <\/span>TAI <\/span>in <\/span>moments <\/span>when <\/span>significant <\/span>issues <\/span>emerged <\/span>that <\/span>needed <\/span>to <\/span>be <\/span>highlighted. <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n
Procedure<\/span><\/span>
\nIn <\/span>the <\/span>description <\/span>of <\/span>the <\/span>sessions, <\/span>I <\/span>summarize <\/span>the <\/span>themes <\/span>addressed <\/span>and <\/span>the <\/span>results <\/span>achieved, <\/span>without <\/span>going <\/span>into <\/span>the <\/span>details <\/span>of <\/span>the <\/span>procedure, <\/span>which <\/span>I <\/span>briefly <\/span>clarify <\/span>here.<\/span>
\nThe <\/span>work <\/span>with <\/span>TAI <\/span>always <\/span>begins <\/span>with <\/span>the <\/span>initial <\/span>phrase <\/span>\u201cI <\/span>am <\/span>the <\/span>origin\u201d <\/span>to <\/span>affirm <\/span>personal <\/span>power. <\/span>Each <\/span>TAI <\/span>sequence <\/span>(or <\/span>\u201cround\u201d) <\/span>is <\/span>preceded <\/span>by: <\/span> <\/span><\/div>\n